tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post1900626731462680354..comments2024-03-02T17:13:39.437-05:00Comments on Stop Thief: Don't Steal My Grief: Grief: Why Is It So Hard To Take Care of Myself?Jan Warnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05541206302269996391noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post-41301013580674022142014-12-17T21:21:36.097-05:002014-12-17T21:21:36.097-05:00:'(:'(broken heartedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05630499205072655737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post-7189424397802519672014-05-29T12:10:25.936-04:002014-05-29T12:10:25.936-04:00I'm so glad I stumbled on this sight. I unders...I'm so glad I stumbled on this sight. I understand every word you said. My husband of 37 years was murdered in 2007. I still love him as much today as I did then. I feel really resentful when people tell me to move on. If my heart wasn't so broken maybe I could. My children are always after me to get counseling because it seems my anger has grown tremendously. I am not sure who I am most angry at. God for taking him from me, the three kids who killed him or my husband for leaving me behind. My house is falling apart, I don't know how to fix the plumbing, roof etc. Money is tight. Sometimes I think maybe I should find another man, it would make life easier, but it wouldn't be fair because I love my husband with all my heart. I have shut down. I very rarely get dressed, my house which once was pristine is filthy, I have no desire to clean, to cook, to go anywhere. I don't care what my house looks like, I only cared when it was a home. I wish people would stop giving me advice and if I here one more time "I know how you feel", I am going to blow up. When someone you loved with all your heart, then you have earned the right to tell me you know how I feel. We all heal at different times, stages and sometimes maybe never. Do not judge and do not think you are helping me by trying to give me words of wisdom.I have to do this on my own time and my own way and if I don't do it at all that's okay too because it is not fun at all to do everything alone.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04753748304409529012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post-1621316077464561612014-04-27T16:28:26.347-04:002014-04-27T16:28:26.347-04:00I totally agree Whirley Witsend. I am closer to y...I totally agree Whirley Witsend. I am closer to your timeline as today I am 11 months since I lost my precious Gra. I selfishly want him back and do not want to settle for anything else. This is my first experience with a blog but I am so thankful I found it and I find so much comfort knowing that there are others who truly understand how I am feeing, God bless you and Jan Warner for creating this blog.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post-87897102698833840332014-04-08T10:51:21.764-04:002014-04-08T10:51:21.764-04:00I understand so well, although I am way behind you...I understand so well, although I am way behind you at nearly 14 months everything you have written here resonates with me. I thought this morning when I was walking the corgis 'I just want Mark back, I want him to be there for me, to take care of 'stuff' and me' Silly really because when he was will me I was quite happy to deal with things. Thank you so much for sharing......it helps me tremendously to know that I am not alone in feeling this way. Shirley xx<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13812963773420933407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455832135737799849.post-34066594841459643422014-04-08T03:58:35.001-04:002014-04-08T03:58:35.001-04:00I've just discovered you. Thank you for creat...I've just discovered you. Thank you for creating this site. mike sheltonnoreply@blogger.com